Not all of the points on this safety plan will apply to your situation. Choose the suggestions that make sense for you.
GENERAL SAFETY PLAN
* Identify a variety of ways to get out of your home safely and practice using your escape route.
* Pack a bag with medications, important documents, money, keys, etc., and hide it. Consider
changing the hiding spot if the abuser searches your home.
* Arrange a signal with neighbors to let them know when you need help (turning on a porch light during
the day, pulling down a particular window shade).
* Devise a code word to use with your children, grandchildren, friends or others to indicate that you
need the police.
* Devise a safety plan for your children which includes the following when violence occurs:
1) find a safe place in your house away from the violence
2) never try to stop the fight because you could get hurt
3) call 911 for help
4) tell the operator where you are, your address and what is happening in your house.
* Decide and plan where you will go if you have to leave (even if you don’t think you will need to).
SAFETY IN INTERNET/TECHNOLOGY
* Update your Privacy Settings.
* Consider closing all your accounts.
* Consider changing your phone and phone number.
* Learn more about social network safety.
SAFETY IN EXPLOSIVE INCIDENTS
* Try to go to a room or area with access to an exit. Avoid rooms with no outside doors and those
containing potential weapons (kitchen, bathroom, bedroom, garage).
* Try to stay in a room with a phone to call 911, a friend, or neighbor.
* Inform law enforcement if weapons are in the home.
* Visualize your escape route and be prepared to use it if a safe opportunity arises.
* Use your code word or special signal to tell your children or neighbors to call 911.
* Use your instinct and judgment to safely assess what to do next.
SAFETY WHEN LEAVING
* Open a savings account in your own name at a different bank. Consider direct deposit of your
paycheck or benefit check. Begin to increase your independence.
* Leave money, an extra set of keys, copies of important documents and extra clothes with someone
* Have the abuser’s social security number and license plate number with you to provide to the police.
* Bring medications, prescriptions, hearing aids, glasses etc.
* Determine who would let you stay with them or lend you money.
* Keep the domestic violence program number with you and have some change at all times for
emergency phone calls.
* If you are 60 years or older, contact Adult Protective Services to learn more about eligibility for public
and private benefits and services.
* Review your safety plan regularly to plan the safest way to leave.
SAFETY IN YOUR OWN HOME
(If the abuser does not live with you)
* Change the locks on your doors as soon as possible. Buy additional locks and safety devices to secure
your windows. Consider increasing your outside lighting.
* If you have children or other dependents living with you, discuss a safety plan for when you are not
with them. Inform their school, day care, etc., in writing, about who has permission to pick them up.
* Inform neighbors and your landlord that the abuser no longer lives with you and they should call the
police if they see the abuser near your home.
SAFETY & PROTECTION ORDERS
* Keep your protection order with you at all times. If it is lost or destroyed, you can get another copy
from the Clerk of Courts.
* Call the police if the abuser violates the protection order.
* If your protection order is out of state, register it with your local police and/or clerk of courts.
* Give copies to anyone with whom your children may stay (school, day care etc.).
SAFETY IN PUBLIC
(At school, work, social, recreational, and volunteer activities)
* Decide who to inform of your situation (school, office or building security), and provide a picture of the
abuser. Consider having your phone calls screened.
* Devise a safety plan for when you are out in public. Have someone escort you to your car, bus or taxi.
Use a variety of routes to go home and consider what you would do if something happened on your
* Recognize that the abuser could use an alternate vehicle.
SAFETY & EMOTIONAL HEALTH
* If you are considering returning to a potentially abusive situation, discuss an alternative plan with
someone you trust.
* If you have to communicate with the abuser, do so in the safest way - by phone, mail, in the company
of another person etc.
* Decide who you can talk to freely and who can provide the support you need. Consider calling a
domestic violence hotline or attending a support group.
(What to take if you leave:)
* Driver’s license or other form of ID
* Your birth certificate and those of family members
* Money, bank books, checkbooks, credit cards, ATM cards, mortgage payment book
* Social Security card, work permit, green card, passport, insurance papers, medical records
* The abuser’s social security number, license plate number and photo, if possible
* Divorce papers and custody papers
* Copies of your protection order
* Lease, rental agreement, house deed
* Keys to house, car, office
* Medications, glasses, hearing aids, etc. for you and your children or other dependents
* Personal items like address book, pictures, etc.